The Busy Trap and How It Affects Your Communication

Are you falling into the ‘busy’ trap? This insightful and up close look into how ‘present’ your life is may be a revelation to you... or not!

My goal for this session is to:
- Open your eyes as to how your communication doesn’t ‘just happen’.
- Send you away motivated to change where you need to, and love and accept yourself where you don’t.
- Have immediately usable and relevant tools to create and instigate change
- It’s a fact, that has never been dis-proven to me in the eight years I have been working with individuals and businesses to heal, inspire, and educate them in matters of communication. Busy kills communication!

At the very least it diminishes communication, which manifests as ‘snippiness’, whinging, nagging, living in preaching, statements, moralisation… all the ugly side of communication!

When the ugly side rears its head, other people get hurt, and depending on their own unique communication style and personality they will all receive it (your incoming) in different ways, and some will hang onto what you have said or done to them for a just a minute… some for a lifetime. Psychologists make a very good living all over the world by dealing with peoples’ past communication hurts.

Busy alters perception (which is a different reality for everyone other than you probably). It could change their perception about themselves – self-esteem, self-confidence, self-belief. Just because you think it or have blurted it, does not make it so in someone else’s perception.

Words are powerful. Words in the wrong place at the wrong time – damaging. They can’t be unheard. Body language can’t be unseen.

If you are one of those people who is at the mercy of busy, your life probably looks like an air-dancer outside of a car yard. You are flailing about mindlessly, going wherever the current wind/task/drama takes you.

I’ve met several women recently who are reluctant to give up their busy ‘badge of honour’. It can’t be possible that it’s still clever in 2019 can it? It was only really clever for a nano-second in the 90’s, when women were ‘breaking the glass ceiling’ and trying to prove themselves better than men.

These days we have absolutely nothing to prove. All we need to do is be. We could be working ‘deeply’ (one task at a time and doing it really well). We could be mindful of our own needs and learn to protect our time. This is not selfish. It is logical and common sense.

And, don’t get me started on how empowerment fits into being an exceptional communicator. You make massive assumptions about someone every time you do something for them without asking. Every time they don’t do it and you pick up the slack instead of corrective coaching that behaviour. The difference may be in whether you favour empathy or compassion.

Let me help you. I can help find you time – at the moment some of you lose time (at least 12 hours a week). I can help you find your emotional and mental well-being – and keep it stable. I can help you to be an empowerer – not an enabler (FYI all of the worlds problems ever were created by an enabler somewhere). Someone looked away. Someone didn’t see it, and say it. Someone condoned it. Someone missed an opportunity to corrective coach it.

Remember it’s – heal, inspire, and educate… and it always happens in that order.

This will be my only time in Taupo this year – so don’t miss out. Book now!
Tea/Coffee, snacks and notes provided.