The Nestling Process

Intimate relationships have a way of excavating and pressing up against our deepest wounds. Yet, they also hold the potential for our deepest healing. The Nestling Process provides a pathway from disconnection and painful triggers to intimacy, healing, and wholeness.

The Nestling Process is a trauma-informed process designed to foster a deep sense of safety, trust, and love in relationships. It draws on therapeutic frameworks such as attachment theory, internal family systems, non-violent communication, and nervous system attunement. It was originally created to help navigate the sometimes turbulent waters of polyamorous relating but the process is beneficial for all styles of relationship.

The process is especially potent for couples who are experiencing relationship challenges such as getting stuck in negative loops, escalating triggers, or struggling to meet one another in their vulnerability.

The Nestling Process provides people with a simple yet powerful container to drop into an embodied sense of safety, softness, and vulnerability. This creates the foundation for all people in relation to experience closeness, honesty and a knowing that they are on the same team.

It is truly magical to witness the innocence and beauty that emerges when all parts of us are seen, heard, and held by another.

The first part of the workshop will be focussed on learning the Nestling Process and theory behind it, and then you’ll get an opportunity to have a guided experience of the process with a partner. Together you will create a warm and secure relational nest that will nourish and transform your relationships.

Come nestle with us!
Tickets come in twos as the process is practised in pairs. We encourage you to come with a partner - and if you want to learn this process and aren’t in partnership, bring a friend!

Bring a water bottle, a pen and paper if you’re a note-taker and we look forward to seeing you there.

Participant Testimonial

"The nestling process came to us just at the right time in our relationship. We were stuck in a traumatic place and had never been taught how to care for each other and ourselves when communicating the hard stuff.

Living like this you live with the fear of the conflict surfacing in the future, and it feels insecure.
Being in a couple is an opportunity to experience the exponential growth and love possible though secure attachment.

But it's not simple staying authentically together unless you have a way of facing conflict safely and communicating effectively.

This process educated us about keeping our nervous systems calm and each other safe and held when communicating. It's priceless and in 20 years of learning personal growth tools I've never come across something similar.

Thanks, guys. This saved us and has made us confident enough to now get engaged to be married! Kapai." - Larissa and Andy

About the Facilitators

Ari Amala:
I’m a writer, facilitator and relationship counsellor currently living in Auckland, Aotearoa. In my role as a Mates and Dates facilitator, I have the privilege of speaking with young people about consent and healthy relationships. I’m also working on finishing a new book of poetry and reflections called, ‘Overflowing.’

Alexander Jenkins:
I am a video game developer, teacher and psychotherapist with over 6 years of experience facilitating workshops for state change and personal empowerment. My practice and offerings have been influenced by a wide range of theory and practices, ranging from eastern meditative practices, mindfulness and tantra, to western mysticism, science and psychology.